LINDSAY WINCHERAUK
  • LINDSAY
    • LINDSAY PAGE 1
    • 2: COMING
    • 3: IMAGES
    • 4: BRAIN DROPPINGS
    • 5: DINNER DATE
    • 6: THE LAB
    • 7: SING
    • 8: TIME + PEOPLE + THINGS
  • DRIVING IN REVERSE
    • DIR: AUTHOR Q + A
    • DIR: REVIEWS
    • DIR: ABOUT THE AUTHOR
    • DIR: CONTENTS
    • DIR Preface
    • DIR: WHO'S IN THE BOOK
    • DIR: WHERE TO BUY? >
      • DIR: WHERE TO BUY? CANADA
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      • DIR: SIGNED COPIES
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    • DRIVING IN REVERSE: SNAPSHOTS >
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      • DIR CLIPPINGS >
        • DIR CLIPPINGS 2
        • DIR CLIPPINGS 3
        • DIR CLIPPINGS 4
  • GLUE
    • START
    • BEFORE FACING
    • CHAPTER 1 >
      • CHAPTER 2: IMPROBABLE
      • CHAPTER 3: GLUE
      • CHAPTER 4: WAKING
      • CHAPTER 5: BALANCE
      • CHAPTER 6: ENDING
      • CHAPTER 7: REWARD
      • CHAPTER 8: SPIN
      • CHAPTER 9: 155
      • CHAPTER 10: ACTION
    • CHAPTER 11: LOVING >
      • CHAPTER 12: BIZZARO
      • CHAPTER 14: MUM
      • CHAPTER 15: STRESS
      • CHAPTER 16: HOLD
      • CHAPTER 17: JIM
      • CHAPTER 18: ODE
      • CHAPTER 19: CLEAN SLATE
      • CHAPTER 20: A SHIRT'S TALE
    • CHAPTER 21: BREAKING >
      • CHAPTER 22: DOTS
      • CHAPTER 23: GAY BAR
      • CHAPTER 24: DOTS 2
      • CHAPTER 25: trish
      • CHAPTER 26: CLOSURE
      • CHAPTER 27: denial
      • CHAPTER 28: PUBLIC OFFICE
      • CHAPTER 29: BERT
      • CHAPTER 30: RITCHIE
    • CHAPTER 31: LOOSE ENDS >
      • CHAPTER 32: DISSEMINATION
      • CHAPTER 33: MAYBE
      • CHAPTER 34: LAUGH
      • CHAPTER 35: HERE
      • CHAPTER 36: WHERE ARE THEY NOW
      • CHAPTER 37: COMING
  • DEATH SAUCE
    • A: OFFER >
      • B: UNPACKING HISTORY - BROUGHTON
      • C: UNPACKING HISTORY - ASHEVILLE
      • D: A LOVE STORY
      • E: HEADING EAST TO ADVENTURE
      • F: HAROLD COURT WASN'T ALWAYS A HEARTLESS PRICK
      • G: PENELOPE + THE VEILED TREE
      • H: JARROD COURT - AN ODDLY GENUINE DUCK
      • I: ARMY LIFE
      • J: SHADOW PEOPLE
      • K: BOTTOM
      • L: LACY + TOMORROW - BAR HOPPING
      • M: BELINDA BLOWS A FUSE
    • N: UPRISING >
      • O: THE UNDERBELLY
      • P: TOXIC LOVE
      • Q: WHO AM I?
      • R: PLANNING THE PLAN
      • S: NEFARIOUS-ITY
      • T: GRIM REAPER
      • U: THE EYE OF THE STORM
      • V: COUP D'ÉTAT
      • W: COUNTDOWN
      • X: BLIND APATHY
      • Y: DIORAMA
      • Z: GOODBYE
    • a: closure >
      • b: sleep comes easy
  • i think
    • ONCE UPON A TIME... >
      • ARC
      • LAUGH - C1: PSA + COMFORT ZONE + CLIPBOARD... >
        • C2: MARATHON + GARAGE SALE + TATTOO
        • C3: TRUMP + SAN JOSE + GUNS
        • C4: CYCLISTS + BRIDGE OVER + HAPPY 1st...
        • C5: MASTURBATION + PENIS PICTURES + LOVE MAKER
        • C6: CAT LADY + WHAT ARE YOU GAY OR SOMETHING + MY TATTOO
        • C7: HAND TEDDIES
        • C8:
        • C9:
        • C10:
      • MAYBE WHEN I HAVE GRANDCHILDREN - C1: VANCOUVER MED >
        • C2: GENERAL POPULATION
        • C3: BUCKET LIST
        • C4: NEXT OF KIN
        • C5: MONDAY WITH BERNIE
        • C6: PSA - HAPPY PILLS
        • C7: JEFFBO
        • C8: ALTHOUGH I AM CAUCASIAN
        • C9: YOU HAVE A GIRL'S NAME
        • C10: LET THE GOOD + BAD FOLLOW CLOSELY BEHIND IN THE BAGGAGE CAR
      • POUTINE THE BOOK >
        • Poutine Pre-Drippings
        • Important Note
    • ME: AREN'T YOU LUCKY >
      • HAUNTED FROM THE GRAVE
      • FIRST TIME
      • Seed's Life: 1-5
      • do i look like a senior - a story
      • 2016 WAS
      • 2 DEAD – 3 INJURED – LIFE PLANS: CANCELLED
    • HUMANITY + RACISM >
      • Just Don't Steal + I'm Not Chinese When I Drive
      • Blind Lady + Pants + Chicken + Mikes a...
      • The Art of Human Interaction
      • ARE WE THIS FLAWED?
      • A CLIPBOARD PERSON MAY HAVE...
      • ABAR
      • Panhandlers
    • WTF >
      • BLACK SHORTS + THE DISSEMINATION OF SOCIAL MEDIA - C1: HOT LEGS >
        • C2: OVERDOSE
        • C3: TRANSITIONING
        • C4: PENIS COOKIES
        • C5: SCRATCH and SNIFF
        • C6: DEMON CHASER
        • C7: DEMON CAUGHT
        • C8: REBIRTH
        • C9: FHCK
        • C10: PURGATORY
    • LIFE - HACKS + OTHER STUFF >
      • PONDER THIS
      • Random Thought or Suggestion
      • Seed's: Life Tip #1
    • 24 HOURS VANCOUVER >
      • 24 HRS: A SHIRT'S TALE
      • 24: NO EXCUSES FOR ALL THAT
      • 24: DUMPED? GET SET FOR A NEW LIFE
      • 24: THE ‘SPARK IS DISAPPEARING—WHAT DO YOU DO?
      • 24: LOVE EACH OTHER AND ENJOY THE RIDE
      • 24: NATURAL DISASTERS, OIL AND DRIVE-THRUS
    • POLITICS: COME FEEL THE NOISE >
      • THE PRESIDENT + CHILDREN TALKING
      • TRUMP VERSUS CANNABIS
      • WALL OR SHAG CARPETING
      • NO PLACE FOR POLITICS
      • 28 Questions about the Inauguration...
    • LOVE + SEX >
      • LADYBUG: HITCHING A RIDE
      • LOVESTRUCK
      • If it ends with a towel - it's not love
    • TRAVEL >
      • oh the places you'll go
      • Osoyoos
      • BC LIONS @ SASK
      • Border Wall
      • Greg from Germany Butts In
    • EXPERIMENTAL >
      • SOCIAL MEDIA - LOOK AT ME
      • Medium
      • I Was Scolded by a YouTube Book Reviewer
    • ASK SEED >
      • ASKED
      • bosom blues
      • jumbled conundrum
    • LISTS >
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      • SEX?
      • CATS
      • WEATHER
      • THE SPORTS PAGE
      • THE GOOD STUFF
    • WORLD >
      • NORTH AMERICA
      • Africa >
        • Africa Slides
      • Europe >
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        • Euro Trip - Oct 8 - Nov 7 - 2003
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      • Oceania >
        • OCEANIA MAP
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      • South America >
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      • Central America >
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      • Caribbean >
        • CARIBBEAN MAP
        • Caribbean Slides
    • BE MY GUEST >
      • A fisherman and a Harvard MBA
      • what happens when you don't care
  • READING
    • I LOVE IT >
      • I LOVE IT: PAGE 1 >
        • I LOVE IT: PAGE 2
        • I LOVE IT: PAGE 3
        • I LOVE IT: PAGE 4
        • I LOVE IT: PAGE 5
        • I LOVE IT: PAGE 6
      • I LOVE IT: PAGE 7 >
        • I LOVE IT: PAGE 8
        • I LOVE IT: PAGE 9
      • Seed's Sketchy Relationship Theories >
        • BREAKFAST TELEVISION
    • TASTY >
      • TASTY: PAGE 1
      • TASTY: PAGE 2
      • TASTY: PAGE 3
    • RECOMMENDED >
      • REC: PAGE 1
      • REC: PAGE 2
      • REC: PAGE 3
    • YES - MAYBE - NO >
      • YES-NO-MAYBE: PAGE 2
    • ROCK BOTTOM >
      • I HOPE THEY SERVE BEER IN HELL
    • MY ULTIMATE BOOKS READ LIST
  • FOOD PORN
    • SUIKA
    • KOKOMO + THE JUICERY
    • TAKO: REVIEW OF A REVIEW
  • MUSIC
    • MUSIC THEME CONTEST
  • TALK
    • Social
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  • 7: SING
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Infidelity: an ugly beast that most people must deal with.

Let us make something perfectly clear: nobody cheats by accident. It is never a mistake. Can you imagine? "Honey, I was walking down the street and I tripped and next thing you know I was having sex. It was an accident."

Tripping is an accident, cheating is ... CHEATING. It is that cut and dried.

Scenario 1 plays out sort of like this: you have struck up a bit of relationship with someone at work. Every day is filled with flirting. The two of you anticipate the day when you will finally get to consummate your friendship.

One problem: She has a boyfriend. Well, it is not really a problem. You must ask yourself two simple questions: do you actually like this person and can you in all honesty imagine having a relationship with her?

If the answer is "Yes", then there is no problem at all. You have to let her know that the flirting must come to a stop.

It is not fair to her boyfriend, or for that matter, to you. As long as she is attached you will no longer partake in this behaviour. You must make this perfectly clear.

Scenario 2

You or the love of your life has strayed for some reason and have spent some time in someone else's sandbox, toy room or whatever euphemism you choose to use for the infidelity.

Your relationship may be on the rocks. Perhaps you even truly love the person you are with. Yet due to your own dysfunctions, you feel trapped.

There are a few things that may happen. It may be a one-time thing, or something your mate stumbles across by accident.
Maybe they confront you with it because they have some hard evidence.

Or maybe someone you know, a friend, a family member or worse yet, someone who has ulterior motives, knows and informs you of it.

If you are the one doing the cheating, you soulless, spineless ... Please take a step back and realize what pain and suffering you are about to inflict.

Why are you about to do this to someone who you love?
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A simple answer: All because of your own selfishness. If you can't keep it in your pants, then get out of your relationship.

If you are the one being cheated on, the answer is simple, but it may not be something that you want to hear.

There is almost no excuse for the disrespect and if you are to find out, you must initially leave.

That is your only option. If you don't, you will never find the respect that you deserve and maybe you don't even deserve that respect.

lindsay wincherauk
july 22 - 2005

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